Happiness is More than Fluff; Happiness is Everything
I remember years ago I worked with a corporate client who asked me, “What are you, the happiness coach?”
It was not intended as a compliment. It was intended to be insulting.
I didn’t flinch. I knew where she was coming from. She hadn’t done much laughing. She saw everything as a problem to be solved. She was unhappy, but her unhappiness was so familiar to her that she didn’t perceive herself as unhappy.
I believe she thought of herself as “normal” in her perception of happiness, and, further, that she considered happiness was unnecessary or even detrimental in the workplace. Perhaps, that happiness made her vulnerable.
What Do You Want?
There’s an approach I use with many clients when I work with them one-on-one. In groups or in writing, the process is far more awkward, because the process is more effective with interaction. Some people arrive at the “happiness” answer with two questions; others require several questions to move through multiple layers of obvious answers.
Before I share the process with you, I want to say that I’ve concluded after using some variation of this process over many years with many individuals: Underneath every desire is the desire for happiness. A word other than “happiness” might be chosen, but the energy is the same. It’s an energy that feels good.
Here’s the Process:
(1) Ask yourself one of the following questions: “What do I want?” Or, “What do I want to experience?” Or,”What do I want to manifest?”
(2) Listen to your answer and accept it. It’s the perfect answer.
(3) If the answer generates anything other than a positive feeling, keep asking some variation on the # (1) questions until you genuinely get to a good-feeling answer. You might consider adding the word “really” before the word “want” to more easily get you to the next layer.
When someone who can read energy is asking you the questions, you and the other person will both know when you’ve arrived at the level of consciousness that resonates with your deep desire to be happy or fulfilled or satisfied.
What Do You Want to Feel?
As a result of working with questions like the above, I often quicken the process and ask “What do you want to feel?” Not everyone can go right to a feeling response if I ask too soon, but it’s powerful when someone can.
Some individuals who are in uncomfortable relationships with others respond to questions about “What do you want?” with “I want him/her to change or to _____ (do a particular thing).”
Sometimes it’s necessary to move through a myriad of layers to get to the feeling. Other times, it’s better to circumvent the victim or blame consciousness by isolating the feeling as soon as possible
I consider “whatever it takes” is worth doing to move through the layers to touch the feeling that feels good to you. And then to live in that feeling and related feelings as often as you can, throughout each day. Such an approach helps you to bloom where you are planted.
It’s simple. However, as with the client I mentioned above, many people have become so familiar with feeling less-than-good that they’re desensitized to their range of feelings.
What is Feeling Good?
Being Happy. Feeling Pleased. Being Satisfied. Feeling Fulfilled. Being Joyous. Feeling Free. Being in Love with Life. Eager and Ready. Being enthusiastic. Smiling. Laughing. Knowing Magnificence.
What do YOU want?
What do YOU want to feel?
By Jeanie Marshall, Personal Development Consultant, Coach, Energy Worker with Marshall House.